1. We accidentally build an arsenal of weird skills.
A hopeless romantic isn’t satisfied just meeting a stranger from a bar. We want someone who shares in our passions and hobbies. Because of this we often find ourselves taking on new ventures in order to meet someone. When we inevitably don’t find the love of our lives we are left with a new hobby and hundreds of hours soaked into it.
2. We love our friends that are in relationships, but often feel left out.
The world has this tendency to put a high value on couples and families, while neglecting singles. We are happy for our friends that have found someone, but it is still hurtful when there are “couples only” double, triple, and quadruple date nights.
3. Gladice, I’m sure your granddaughter is very nice, but for the 600th time I’m not interested.
For some reason the older people in our lives always try to set us up with their relatives even when we have absolutely nothing in common or any mutual interest. Stop it old people, just stop.
4. We don’t have unrealistic expectations.
As a “hopeless romantic” we are seeking our other half, the other piece of the puzzle. We want someone with commitment, loyalty, that shares in our interests and passions. We don’t hop around from person to person and as such advice like “just date around until you find someone you like” doesn’t fly too well with us. We don’t play games and don’t relish in the idea of hurting others.
5. Current social norms leave us feeling isolated.
We are less than thrilled with the state of “social norms” at the moment. We live in a world full of the ‘FOMO, do what is best for yourself, forget loyalty, and do whatever you want’ mentality.
6. We’ve tried dating sites and they suck.
Dating sites are the breeding ground for the types of people mentioned in point number 5. I’m sure there are some good people that attempt to use them, but they are vastly outnumbered and often scared away by the crazies.
7. There’s no reason to belittle us.
“Your standards are too high,” “just put yourself out there,” “learn to settle,” “I hear Gladice’s granddaughter is single,” are not things we enjoy hearing, nor are they helpful in the least.
8. We aren’t scared of commitment.
As a matter of fact we prefer commitment. We just don’t commit to people we aren’t interested in pursuing. There is either interest or there isn’t. There is no in-between.
9. We aren’t selfish.
We would give anything to find that fairy tale ending. To have someone to make laugh, to share with, to be our adventure friend. Just because we are single and don’t have to answer to anyone but ourselves doesn’t make us selfish.
10. We value love.
Above all else we value the idea of love, actual love, not what movies and television claim it is. The selfless kind of love that seems to no longer exist.
Is love dead? Most likely, but hopefully not.